Coach Training Skills

Skills Taught in the Coach Training

To be certified as an MMS Certified Coach, there are subtle nuances of interpersonal interactions, which must be grasped and experienced. These levels are presented in progression, allowing each trainee to learn and integra

 

te them organically. The skills taught in the training are outlined below:

Suspending judgment

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A coach must be able to provide a judgment-free environment, one in which any thought or feeling can be expressed and any wish may be stated. While judgment making is a learned function of the human mind, it is necessary that a trainee begin to master the ability to:

 

  • Be aware of automatically made judgments
  • Become able to detach from those judgments at will

 

This expands on step one. During the training, each person becomes more aware of the warnings, dictates, comments and editing of the mind. In order to coach, the trainee learns to silence the "voices" of the mind, in order to ground himself and center. It is necessary to attain temporary inner peace in order to actively listen.

Focusing attention on the client

It is essential to learn how to focus one's attention. It is "normal" to have one's attention on oneself. In a coaching session, the coach learns to instantly shift his attention from himself onto the client.

Meeting one's own need for attention

In the process of learning the skill to shift one's attention onto another, your "attention quotient" is revealed. It is imperative to make certain that your needs for attention, from yourself as well as from others, have been met. The trainee must feel complete within himself in order to serve another person.

Actively receive the message

Listening is not the same as hearing. The trainee must learn to actively receive the intuitive message. The coach draws communication from the client by being open and ready to receive. The intuitive channel is also open to receive non-verbal communication.

Being "present" with another

A coach encounters the client in a moment in time and must "be" with him moment by moment for the duration of the skills coaching session. Being "present" means, not thinking about the past or the future, but staying aware, available, and sensitive in the here and now.

Intuiting where they are

A coach must use all possible resources to pick up clues about the client's situation. It is important to be able to use intuitive "antennae" to determine how the client is moment to moment. This sensitivity requires the trainee to become more and more sensitive to nuances, and trusting his intuition.

Listening between the words

Listening to what is being said is half the challenge. Listening to what is NOT being said is the other half. Being open does not mean interpreting, assuming or judging what the client is saying. It means listening and picking up the unverbalized "messages" that are being transmitted.

Merging energetically

Once the coach has a "reading" on the client and can feel the energy vibration of the individual, then he can attune or adjust his energy to match and meet that of the client. This establishes a bond within which the process occurs. Mirroring the client can occur after merging.

Trusting oneself completely to be receptive

The state of receptivity is a vulnerable one. In order to catalyze and draw responses from the client, the coach must be in a state of inviolate self-trust.

Allowing questions to occur from the intuition

Energy flows between the coach and client through their dialogue. To allow the process to be fluid and organic, the questions must arise from an intuitive sense of "rightness," rather than a rational order. The coach must listen with an inner ear in order to know the next question to ask, without altering his attention.

Remaining unattached to any result

The coach's purpose is to have the client arrive at a solution, which feels peaceful and "right." Paradoxically, if the coach is attached to or invested in that happening, the client is deprived of "breathing room." In other words, the coach must be willing for anything to happen in order for the client to arrive at a resolution. The client must feel free of the coach's expectation of "right" or "good."

Feeling empathy for another's situation without "believing" it

There are three possible positions from which to listen. One is, totally discounting the worth or credibility of what another is saying, a position both dehumanizing and degrading. The opposite position is to believe and agree with everything someone says, lending power and solidity to what they say. The position a coach must take is one of empathic unattachment. That means, communicating to the client that you understand and feel their words without discounting or believing them.

Monitoring another's progress

Throughout the skills coaching session, the coach must be sensitive to vibrational shifts in the client's energy. It is crucial to notice when the client is opening up, closing down, speaking honestly or saying what he thinks is the right thing to say. It is essential for the coach to constantly check-in with his own sense of "rightness" in order to monitor his client.

Facilitating another in making a choice

Making a choice is the source of personal power; it is an active statement of "taking charge." It moves the individual from an "affective role" to a "director role," and allows a person to experience the dignity of freedom. The coach's primary purpose is to support the individual in moving through all of the preliminaries to the point of making a choice about the issue at hand, in order to take charge and experience self-direction.

Supporting another in devising an action plan

Once a choice has been made; it exists only in substance, in the heart and mind of the chooser. The next step is to manifest it, to bring it about on the material plane, to birth its existence. This requires a set of action steps. The coach's task is to draw out from the client those steps that will result in a materialized choice.

Completing the session to the client's satisfaction and one's own

The coach must check with the client and with himself to make certain that there is a sense of completion about the session. All loose ends must be tied up and the client needs to feel satisfied.

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